When you hear the word romance,
what images come to mind? Does candle
light dinners? Does a box of chocolate candy
along with long stemmed red roses? Even
possibly, a hot bubble bath followed by a steamy sexual rendezvous?
Unfortunately, all of these portrayed images of
romance have been heavily influenced by the spirit of
the current worldly culture at large. Various
commercials, advertisements, television shows, and movies have bombarded our minds
to accept their carnal definitions of romance without even a second
thought. However, today I would like to
challenge you to go deeper in your understanding and raise your commitment level of practical application,
as we discover together how valuable divine romance can be for the
sustainability of any
relationship. By the time you finish
reading this blog, you will realize that true romance makes a life-changing and
lasting impact, far beyond the short shelf-life of any physical encounter. Why?
Simply because romancing the soul is rooted and anchored in Love not
lust. Let me explain.
It is important to understand that someone in the relationship equation
must have an accurate understanding of Love in order for romance to be present. In order to fully embrace the revelation of
romancing the soul, let’s begin by refreshing our understanding of what a soul
consist of and how romance relates to each part.
Our soul is comprised of three parts: our mind
(the way we think), emotions (how we feel), and our will (our behavior based
upon our thinking patterns and feelings).
To romance one’s mind is to be acutely aware of their intricate design
by seeking to understand them before seeking to be understood by them. To romance one’s emotions is to be aware of their
places of pain and choose to minister healing instead of adding more hurt to
the injury. Therefore, the recipient’s
will (behavior) reciprocates romance when the aforementioned Love acts are
exhibited towards them. In essence, you
reap what you’ve sown. The measure in
which you give will be the measure given back to you.
Therefore to
successfully romance the soul of someone we claim
to love, we must make a personal effort to learn and lovingly display the
attributes of romance. Are you
ready? Let’s go deep…
R = Relate
Romancing
the soul begins with having the capacity to relate. This means what’s important to those we claim to love becomes very important to us. This eradicates mere lip service! While we apply the principle of relating, our
lifestyle becomes our mouthpiece.
O = Opportunity
Everyday
we must look, listen, and fill the voids in others’ life experiences. With clarity of vision, we are endowed with
the spiritual capacity to see where deficiencies lie. Not to criticize or expose, of course. However, opportunities arrive to give us the
privilege of being an agent of healing while they endure their personal process
to wholeness.
M = Meekness
I believe
meekness is the fruit of power where one is graced to govern their own soul,
dealing wisely with the ignorant and erring. This is where pride must die so that we can
become other-centered and have the ability to see the flickers of light in the
midst of darkness. Meekness also gives
us the divine empowerment to choose gracefully which hills to die on! This invokes a couple of questions, “Although I am right, will I really
win? Is it worth what it’s ultimately going to cost me?” Most often, it’s not!
A = Acute Awareness
Being
acutely aware increases one’s level of spiritual discernment in regards to
perceiving an opportunity – the time and season. Therefore, this is the divine wisdom to know
what to do, when to do it, and how to properly function in the opportunity. There may appear to be an opportunity to do something;
however, it may not be the best time.
Consequently, due to being discernment
deficient, one may lose the positive, lasting impact they desire.
N = Noteworthy
Since
everyone is “wired” differently, romance has numerous definitions. In essence, the receiver is the one that
determines the definition of romance for
them, not the giver. Therefore, when we are the giver, being acutely
aware (sensitive to the slightest details) enables us to create noteworthy
moments more frequently.
C = Care
Most
have heard the quote, “People do not care
how much you know until they know how much you care!” As our desire to romance the soul of those we
claim to love increases, it is
imperative that we choose to handle them with care through constant communication,
acute awareness, revelation, and from eternal perspectives. The ministry of reconciliation should always
be the motivating force behind our decisions and choices.
E = Entrust
In
my opinion, “entrust” is the icing on the cake of romance. As we stand grounded in Love and exhibit the
attributes of romance, we become qualified to be a “safe place” for someone
else’s heart. In choosing not to exploit
their areas of weakness, we become a place of refuge, a haven if you will. As a h.a.v.e.n.,
we are a place of healing that is acutely aware of the importance of operating from voluntary self-sacrificing
and eternal
perspectives which enables us to network by capitalizing on each others’ strengths while
minimizing the exposure of individual weaknesses. In essence, we become a place where they can
experience the Unconditional Love and Peace of the Lord!
You may be wondering why I repeatedly
stressed “claim to love” throughout
the blog. The reason is without the
corresponding actions of Love, our claims are empty confessions void of application. I am hopeful this ministry of practicality
equips you with the romantic tools necessary to make a significant,
long-lasting impact on those whom you have the privilege to re-present Love and
build your life with.
Can you believe…I’m so excited for
you! For I believe romancing the soul has a long-lasting impact with returns that will richly bless you and your descendants for years to come!
© 2011 Julianne Pearson
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